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Straight answers to the questions women 35+ ask us most. Perimenopause, belly fat, strength, food and energy. Every question here came from a real conversation with a woman just like you.

I have 50 pounds to lose. Is an 8-week program even worth it for me?
Yes, it's worth it. Eight weeks won't be the whole story, and it doesn't have to be. It's where it starts. On your onboarding call, you and your coach set your first goal together. You build the fo...
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How much water should I drink in perimenopause, and do I need electrolytes?
What we usually start with is about 2 litres of water a day, and your coach adjusts it from there. Keep it simple: a clear glass you can see going down, and a little lemon or lime if plain water bo...
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What's the best protein powder for women over 40? Whey bothers my stomach.
The best protein powder is the one your stomach agrees with, and plenty of women over 40 don't need one at all. Real food comes first. If whey bothers you, there are other kinds, like beef protein ...
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How many steps a day do I need for fat loss? Is 10,000 real?
There's no magic step count. 10,000 is a useful target, and you don't have to hit it. What we look at is whether your everyday movement adds up across the day, on top of your strength workouts. Sta...
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Do I have to take before and after photos?
No. We'll ask you to, and we'll tell you why. Progress photos show the body composition changes the scale misses, side by side. They're private, they stay with your coaching team, and they're there...
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How do I get through Thanksgiving dinner (and the holidays) without undoing my progress?
Build your plate around protein first, add your vegetables, then take the sides you really want in smaller portions. Have the pie if you want it. In our experience, one holiday dinner doesn't chang...
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I hate cooking and I'm wiped out by dinnertime. Can I still eat for fat loss?
Yes. You don't have to enjoy cooking to lose fat. Pick the one meal that's easiest for you to own, keep the rest simple, and lean on shortcuts: pre-chopped vegetables, a rotisserie chicken, ready-m...
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How do I tone my arms and get rid of back fat? Can I target one spot?
You can't pick where fat comes off. What you can do is build the muscle in your arms and back with full-body strength training, and bring your overall body fat down with the right nutrition. As the...
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How do I handle family and friends who comment on what I eat or keep pushing food and drinks?
Decide what you want before you walk in, keep your answer short and friendly, and keep something in your glass. In our experience, "I'm good for now, thanks" handles most of it. Saying yes to the w...
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I can't do a single push-up. Can I still do the program, and how do I build up?
Yes, you can still do the program. Plenty of women start without a single full push-up. Every push-up in our workouts has easier versions: on a wall, with your hands raised on something sturdy, or ...
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Do I have to cook separate meals for my family? Nobody wants to eat what I'm eating.
No. Cook one dinner and change your plate. The food in our plan is real, family-friendly food, so everyone can eat the same meal while you adjust your own portions: protein first, plenty of vegetab...
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Why do I crash at 3 or 4 p.m. and snack until dinner? What should I eat instead?
Usually because you didn't eat enough earlier in the day. Coffee for breakfast and a light lunch only go so far, so around 3 or 4 your energy drops and the grazing starts. In our experience, more p...
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Perimenopause and your body
- Why am I gaining belly fat in perimenopause when nothing about my diet or workouts changed?
- Why is my stomach the only thing growing, and why am I bloated by every afternoon?
- Is stress and cortisol why I can't lose belly fat?
- Why am I exhausted all the time even when I sleep 8 hours?
- I wake up at 2am every night. Is this perimenopause, and what actually helps?
- Why am I heavier, hungrier and weaker the week before my period?
- My doctor says my bloodwork is normal and it's "just perimenopause." So why do I keep gaining?
- I'm already on HRT and still gaining. What am I missing?
- I was thin my whole life. Why is my body changing at 45 when nothing I do works?
- Everyone says I look thin but I feel soft. What is "skinny fat" and how do I fix it?
- I'm post-menopausal and feel weaker and softer every year. Is it too late to build muscle?
- There's so much conflicting advice about perimenopause and fat loss. Who do I actually believe?
Food and nutrition
- Do I have to count calories, weigh my food or track macros to lose fat after 40?
- Do I have to cut carbs to lose fat after 40?
- How much protein does a woman in perimenopause need, and do I have to use protein powder?
- I'm vegetarian, pescatarian or keep kosher. Can I get enough protein to do this?
- I'm sick of chicken. How do I hit my protein without eating the same thing every day?
- Am I eating too little? I barely eat and still can't lose fat.
- I eat clean all day and then raid the pantry at 8pm. Why, and how do I stop?
- Is intermittent fasting good for women in perimenopause? I'm never hungry in the morning.
- Should I eat before a morning workout, or is it better to train on an empty stomach?
- Can I still drink wine, eat with my family and keep my favourite foods and still lose fat?
- How do I eat out at restaurants and still lose fat?
- Should I take creatine in perimenopause?
- I can lose the fat, I just can't keep it off. What am I doing wrong?
- Can I still drink coffee in perimenopause, and what can I put in it?
- Why do I crash at 3 or 4 p.m. and snack until dinner? What should I eat instead?
- Do I have to cook separate meals for my family? Nobody wants to eat what I'm eating.
- I hate cooking and I'm wiped out by dinnertime. Can I still eat for fat loss?
- What's the best protein powder for women over 40? Whey bothers my stomach.
- How much water should I drink in perimenopause, and do I need electrolytes?
Strength training and exercise
- I work out 4 to 5 times a week and eat healthy. Why isn't anything changing?
- I run or spin every day. Why am I not losing fat, and is cardio making it worse?
- Will lifting weights make me "bulky" at 45?
- I've never lifted weights and I'm scared I'm doing it wrong. Can I really do this at home?
- What equipment do I need to strength train at home, and can I do the workouts at my gym instead?
- How many days a week should a woman over 40 strength train, and how long should workouts be?
- Do I have to quit my fitness classes or my trainer to do strength training?
- I have a bad knee, shoulder or back. Can I still strength train at 45?
- I'm so sore after strength training. Is that normal, and should I still work out?
- Does working out at night wreck my sleep and fat loss?
- How do I know if I'm lifting heavy enough, and when should I go heavier?
- I can't do a single push-up. Can I still do the program, and how do I build up?
- How do I tone my arms and get rid of back fat? Can I target one spot?
- How many steps a day do I need for fat loss? Is 10,000 real?
GLP-1 medications
- I'm tempted by Ozempic. Will I lose muscle, and what happens when I stop?
- I'm on Ozempic or Zepbound. How do I keep my muscle and not end up with "Ozempic face"?
Staying consistent
- I always start strong and fall off by week 3. How do I stick with it this time?
- I'm on track all week, then the weekend (or the cottage) undoes it. How do I stop starting over every Monday?
- What if I get sick or miss a week of workouts? Do I have to start over?
- I have a vacation coming up. How do I not undo all my progress while I travel?
- The scale hasn't moved but my clothes fit differently. Am I actually making progress?
- Should I start now, or wait until after the holidays (or my trip)?
- How do I handle family and friends who comment on what I eat or keep pushing food and drinks?
- How do I get through Thanksgiving dinner (and the holidays) without undoing my progress?
- Do I have to take before and after photos?
Coaching with Forty Forward
- Is One-on-One Coaching Worth It?
- I know what to eat and how to work out. I just don't do it. Do I actually need a coach?
- I've tried everything and nothing has worked. Why would this be any different for me?
- How is this different from the nutritionist, trainer or program I already did?
- Is Forty Forward legit? Are Chris and Elle real people, and who actually coaches me?
- How much time does this actually take? I'm already stretched thin and I travel.
- How fast will I see results, and what's realistic in 8 weeks?
- I have 50 pounds to lose. Is an 8-week program even worth it for me?
- What happens after the 8 weeks? Will I just slide back?
- Can my husband or a friend do the program with me?
- Why isn't Forty Forward cheap, and what do I actually get?